I recently read an article about how Satan is trying to destroy our families (you can find the article here). It talked about how we are all so busy, stressed, and absorbed in technology that we’re making it easy for Satan to get in and tear apart the foundation of our society, the family. Family is so important. God set up families to be the perfect example of how He loves his children: the father is the leader and protector of the home, the mother is the helpmeet and comforter and kisser of boo-boos, both parents teach their children right from wrong and provide a safe place for children to learn that’s filled with grace and love.
It made me really think about how easy it is to let so many other things creep in and take priority over family time. As Jack gets older, I’m sure he will play sports, but Little League is no longer just a fun thing for kids like it was when I was little. Now, it’s a serious game where kids are either playing or practicing 4 or 5 nights a week, making the commute from school to the fast food place to the ball field the best family time possible during baseball season. And it isn’t just baseball – there are so many activities for kids to be involved in, and it seems like such a good idea to give them all these opportunities and experiences, but we have to ask what we’re sacrificing for those things.
I definitely don’t have this parenting thing figured out. I’ve only been a mom for 16 weeks, and they have been the most stressful, challenging, beautiful weeks of my life. I’m learning everything as I go and just trying to do my best, but reading this article reminded me that, as a mother, I’ve got to fight for my family. I don’t know yet what that’s going to look like as Jack gets older – Do we limit him to only one extra-curricular activity? Do we not allow him to have a cell phone or put time limits on his TV and other technology? Do we adopt a family game night where we don’t allow anything else to but into our family time at least that one night of the week? I don’t really know yet.
What I do know is that my family is my priority. Spending quality time with Jeff (including date nights – which are so important for parents!) and Jack is something I want to do better. I can already see that cell phones and television are getting in the way of quality time for us, so it’s time for us to sit down as a family and figure out something that works for us.
I also know that the best thing I can do for my family as we’re figuring out what works best for us is to pray. I need to be covering my husband and my marriage and my child in prayers daily. It seems so simple, but the truth is that I’m often too busy or tired or preoccupied with something else to take the time to stop and pray. It’s time for me, as a mother, to become a prayer warrior for my family. I need to make time to spend in prayer over the people who mean the most to me.
I honestly believe that Satan is out to destroy our families, because broken families create broken people and broken people are easy targets for Satan’s lies. He doesn’t want us to have happy homes. He wants our lives filled with strife and pain. But God wants better for us. He wants us to live lives full of peace and joy. He wants our homes filled with love and laughter. He wants parents teaching their children His ways, not only by taking them to church, but by being role models and real life examples of how to live in God’s grace daily.
I definitely don’t have all the answers about what to do and what not to do, but I know that I’m going to get into God’s Word and I’m going to pray more specifically for my family. I’m going to make time with my husband and son my first priority. I’m taking a stand, because I refuse to allow Satan to come in a steal my family.